To the woman who has taken a break from trying.
The other day I was given some unsolicited advice* of taking a break from trying as I mentioned we had been for 2 years. As every miracle birth that people know of around them happens when a person stops trying or ends up adopting. I believe everyone thinks this is great news (which it is) but the journey to that moment is an excruciating one. This couple, or individual, just mentally gave up all hope of a dream that has been with them most of their lives. They have spent the last 1,3,5,10 years being poked, prodded, hopes brought up and dreams crushed every month, to let go of an idea that would never be. Please realize that you saying the words "just take a break" belittle the everyday struggle that they have gone through.
* Please note before giving advice or telling stories, would you do the same to a person with a disease where the outcome is unknown. I'm not equating the two, but am simply mentioning that suggesting to them to just do a juice cleanse and they'll be fine, seems silly no?
Ah yes, looking for something to say for that person who is close to you (or not even) who are going through infertility? Follow the guide below no matter the situation!
You're having troubles getting pregnant? That's so stressful, you should try to take a break for ______(amount of time). My _______(relatives name) did that and they were pregnant right after! Or even __________(someone you barely know) adopted after _________(number of years) and they got pregnant within _______ (number of months). Or even I read ______________(obscure facebook article) that if you try _____________(medically unsupported procedure) you can have a kid within _________ (number of months). I know you'll want to give ________________(insert grandparents name) a grandchild soon, they are waiting!
Then, and this is the MOST important part when you finish. Just throw it out and tell the person "if you need anything I'm here".
**These are all things that have been said to my face.
Why write something about myself when I can give testimonials!